speak to a large number of groups each year and give numerous
workshops. I love doing it! I've met more intelligent, creative
kinky folks in places that I never would have guessed than
anyone could ever imagine. I'm up for more!
you're interested in having me speak please browse through
the topics below, find out what my expectations are, and
then read through the biographical information for the nitty-gritty.
The Dark Side
What is Dark? Who knows what evil lurks in the human heart?
What are our forbidden fantasies and what do we do with
them? Leather allows a unique expression of our most inner
personae, even the evil ones. How do SM and sexual activity
allow us to express the animal/demon/devil within?
How does it put us in touch with our basic instincts? How
does it allow us to express objectification, destruction,
dread, and death? How are we expressing primitive drives
for initiation, maturity, and acceptance of self into our
kinky community? This is a lot more than just a presentation
The Lusting Pervert's Guide to Getting Laid
Many of us come to kink because we are seeking a sexual
partner, either for the thrill of scene or a long term relationship.
Yet time after time, we fail to reach our social goals.
How can we learn new ways to improve our chances of success?
Whether you're a wall-flower or a gigolo, here is Jack's
guide to getting the kind of scene or relationship that
you seek, whether it includes getting laid or not.
The Joy of Surrender
Whether we are tops or bottoms, there are things that hold
us back from fully enjoying what it is that we do. Sharing
his nearly 30 years of letting go, Jack Rinella will give
you ideas on finding the freedom to be who you want to be,
overcoming fear, shame, guilt, and the tapes that tell you
that you shouldn't or can't. Here is one class where you'll
find out that you're not the only one.
Face it -- breaking the ice is never easy. How do we start
the dialogue that leads to play? to familiarity? or to a
relationship. From hanky codes and dress to sending her
roses, this seminar will increase your chances of getting
what you want. Here's a chance for the wallflower in each
of us to get noticed.
So you want to have a polyamorous relationship? There is
nothing more dangerous than adding new person to an established
relationship. Let's look at the pitfalls of more with an
eye to fill in the potholes so that everyone benefits from
the addition and we find ways to avoid the "subtraction"
of a broken hearts.
The Good Old Days
Those that don't know their history are doomed to repeat
it. Let's look at how the scene has changed over the past
twenty-five years and explore what is better and what we
miss. Time has a way of changing life and it is only by
reflection and decision that we can assure that our future
is what we want it to be. Here's where "In my days"
can become a beacon for the better days to come.
The Limits of Domination
The idea of living in a Master/slave relationship is significantly
different than the reality of maintaining and enjoying one.
How do D/s relationships really work? What guidelines should
tops and bottoms use to insure that what they want is what
they get? Which limits can we overcome, and how can we do
that, and which ones need to be respected? This important
topic is a reality check that allows us to go further than
we ever dreamed we could.
How to Negotiate
Whether you're looking for a one-night stand or a 24/7/365
LTR, there are ways to negotiate so that both sides win.
What is the process of negotiation? How can we make it work
better? Beginning by knowing what we want, we will look
for ways to understand our prospective partner's desires,
and then continue along the path to creating a satisfying
scene, a long term relationship, or anything along that
route. Communication is key to getting what you want, but
do you know what you want?
The Power Dynamic in SM
Many well-known BDSM groups have the word power in their
names -- and for good reason. The power exchange is what
we're all about. We will look at how power is exchanged
and at ways to make that power flow more powerfully. Techniques
include relaxation, visualization, and polarity creation.
The when, why, how, where, and what of maintaining multiple
sexual relationships. Poly-partnering is becoming more and
more acceptable, and certainly more and more evident. It's
not, though, all a bed of roses. How to make it work and
how to avoid it when that's what really counts.
Creating Spaces for Good Sex
Whether you live in a studio apartment on a fixed pension
or have a trust fund allowance from your Rockefeller uncle,
this workshop will talk about the top's toy bag, the hidden
dungeon, and making good sex better by paying attention
to the details. A workshop only a former altar boy could
My God What Am I Doing?
Why do kinky folk do what they do? This seminar will explore
the reasons behind our fetishes, with emphasis on the human
side of SM. We will look at the Why of SM, with a discussion
of what it is and what it isn't. Our approach will be holistic,
recognizing the myriad of forces that bring us together
in the dungeon.
An Historical Perspective of Kinky Sex
We have an extensive, if hidden and often forgotten, History.
There is more to the idea of the "Old Guard" than
we think. This slide show / seminar will talk about our
past and what it tells us about our present and our future.
We will debunk myths and legends so that we are free to
create a community as lively and exciting as the ones that
created our present lifestyle. -- note this is a rather
long presentation, so plan about 1.5 to 2 hrs -- but people
The View From the Top and the Bottom
There is a wide continuum among SM players about the reality
of our roles, from abject worshipping slave to pushy, controlling
bottom on to Tops and Masters. Whether your play stems from
Hedonism, Sadomasochism, or the Desire to Serve, we'll look
at what it means, how to get what you want, and how to find
fulfillment in getting to the "root" of what you
are. We will take time to look at various fetishes, such
as spanking and bondage, to find ways to increase everyone's
satisfaction and enjoyment. We'll cover negotiation, limits,
protocols, and getting what you want. The top's responsibilities
will be discussed as well as ways to make sure your bottoms
keep coming back for more. Everyone welcome.
The Vocabulary and Culture of Kink
A knowledge of our culture and our values helps bond us
as a viable, if diverse community. I propose to talk about
our values as the prime force that unites us, protects us,
and infuses us with who we are. There is more to us than
kinky sex. What are the values that we need to have among
us, to teach our newbies, and to survive? From our common
values we can derive the principles that under-gird our
lifestyle and upon which we can continue to be successful
Giving Better Blow Jobs
The anatomy, psychology, and methodology of cocksucking.
How to arouse and satisfy your male partner.
Getting Into A Kinky Relationship
Here's the hows, the wheres, and the whats of finding a
partner -- for the scene, for a good time, or for a long
time. We all hate the dating game and too often early success
becomes a mess. Explore the meaning and the creation of
relationships. Whether it's D/s or love, versatile, open,
or old-fashioned, there'll be something for everyone who's
decided it's not good to be alone.
Manners & Protocols
How do Leather folk treat each other in our various roles?
This seminar presents ways for us to relate, top to bottom,
bottom to top, master to slave and vice versa, etc. What
are protocols and how do they affect that treatment?
The Primal Self
Leather allows a unique expression of our most inner personae.
How do SM and sexual activity allow us to express the animal
within? How does it put us in touch with our basic instincts?
How are we expressing primitive drives for initiation, maturity,
and acceptance of self into our kinky community? This is
a lot more than just a presentation on biting!
From finding a Master to becoming a Dom, we'll discuss
the myths and realities of a dominant/submissive relationship,
including topics such as obedience, 24/7, protocols, training,
contracts, punishment, play, communications, negotiations,
and limits. Jack brings more than 25 years' experience as
a Master, looking, interviewing, training, losing, loving,
and dominating. He and his slave Patrick have been Master
and slave for more than eight years. Come and learn what
works, what doesn't, and why.
Long Term Relationships
Jack Rinella and his slave Patrick have been in a successful
and kinky relationship for more than sixteen years. I'll
explain how to keep your relationship alive and fulfilling
and will discuss communication between partners, ways to
arrive at agreement, and how to maintain a kinky life when
the rest of your world keeps you otherwise occupied.
The Care & Feeding of Doms
What do Doms need, want, and seek? Often the top maintains
a wall of silence in order to maintain his "position."
Let's take down that wall and look at ourselves and our
partners in ways that allows everyone to enjoy what happens.
Without managing from the bottom, we'll try to help everyone
live happily ever after.
The Slave's Point of View
With Jack's five year's experience, let this master and
former slave explain what really goes on in the slave's
mind and heart. This seminar will demythologize the meaning
of slavery and show you that you can make your fantasy life
real. I'll give you courage to seek and live the life you
want, no matter where you are on the dominance-submission
Clips and Clamps
Though this is mostly about clothespins, there's a wide,
wild world of things that pinch. This hands on seminar will
give everyone a chance to learn what they are and how to
use them. It includes the full spectrum from finding and
using, from one to three hundred, as well advanced techniques
like netting and tugs of wars.
The Mind Body Connection
Let's begin with an exploration of who we are as physical
beings. Understanding ourselves as manifestations of brain
waves, endorphins, and subconscious and instinctive activities
will help us maintain a perspective on our lives and our
feelings. How do we process pain? What is pleasure? Knowing
ourselves is the beginning of accepting ourselves, from
whence we can further develop our human capacities to feel,
to enjoy, and to love.
What is magic and how do we use sex magically? How does
this all work and why? Using all the concepts we've explored
in the previous workshops we will seek ways to grow as whole
and holy beings
Spirituality in the Dungeon
In recent years the subject of SM and Spirit has become
ever more popular. What is it and what does it mean? How
does it happen? How can we encourage it and what about it
should be avoid? Here Jack will mix his extensive philosophical
and theological studies with kinky-life experience to shown
the union of sex and spirit and potential it holds for better
sex and the good life.
Playing with the Family Jewels
Sensitive, erotic, forbidden, and with a head of its own,
the male genitalia offer a focused target for both pleasure
and pain. Join Jack as he demonstrates, explains, and enjoys
the toy that men never leave home. This seminar on cock
and ball torture will cover the wide variety of techniques
you can use on him whether you want screams of delight or
pain. Yes, there will be frontal nudity.
You name It
I can talk about most anything kinky. What do you want
to know? It's best to call me at 312-206-8793 and we can
come up with some suitable ideas.
I am available at the cost of my expenses: a place to stay,
food, and entrance to your event.
will fly cheap or if you’re near Chicago, drive in
a rental car. I can stay in private homes but would prefer
a hotel room if your event is being held at one and the
attendees are doing that too.
would appreciate a chance to sell books.
will also do enough to make it worth your while, meaning
I will do multiple workshops. I can demo as well as talk
and am an excellent facilitator for discussions.
best to call me here in Chicago at 773-281-0417, or email
me at MrJackr@Leathermail.com,
and we can come up with some suitable
Rinella, author of The
Master's Manual, The
Compleat Slave, Partners
In Power, The
Toy Bag Guide to Clips and Clamps, Becoming
a Slave, Philosophy
in the Dungeon, The
Dictionary of Scene-Friendly Terms, More
from the Master, and The
Dionysian Alliance is a free-lance writer, computer
professional, and college instructor. A sought-after lecturer,
Jack has presented across the country, including the Leather
Leadership Conference, Black Rose, Bash at the Beach, The
Leather Archives and Museum, Beat Me in St. Louis, Master's
Retreat, TES, Headspace in Bloomington, IN, PEER in Cincinnati,
and Menamore Leather/Levi Club in Wilmington, NC, South
Plains LeatherFest, and many, many more.
Born in upstate New York of Italian-American parents, he's
been a high school and college teacher, a drug rehabilitation
counselor, a cook, a computer salesman, a Catholic seminarian,
a Pentecostal minister, an advertising copy writer, a graphic
designer, and has done stints at printing, publishing, telemarketing,
head-hunting, and computer consulting.
He has been active in the Leather scene since 1983, is a
founding member of MAsT-Chicago, an associate member of
the Chicago Hellfire Club, and has written extensively about
our lifestyle for nearly eleven years. He is a weekly columnist
for Gay Chicago Magazine and his writing has also appeared
in Drummer, in The (San Francisco) Sentinel, and in Philadelphia
He lives on the North side of Chicago where he passes the
time writing, cruising, and falling in love whenever he
can. You can contact Jack at mrjackr@Leathermail.com
or visit his web site at www.LeatherViews.com.