following is an essay I borrowed with permission from
Tammad's web site. It provides an excellent introduction
to butt plugs. After Tammad's essay, you’ll find
some added some comments from a Ken and my slave Patrick.
“A medium size butt plug is an excellent place to
start, given that you've already decided that you are
interested in having a plug inside you. The small size
is for convincing uncertain anal virgins that it isn't
the least bit bad.
“A few hints: put the stopper in the sink and run
warm (not more than about 95 degree F) water into the
sink; let the plug soak in the warm water for 10 minutes
before you insert it. Time things so that you've had a
bowel movement recently, so that the rectum is likely
to be empty. Or take a water enema. Then put a blob of
lube on one finger, and gently work it into your anus.
Add another blob of lube, and work that in too. When your
finger moves in and out easily and slippery-ly, take the
warm plug out of the water, dry it off.
“Put a big blob of lube in the palm of your hand,
and then roll the plug around in your hand, until it's
coated with lube from tip to the base. Kneeling on the
bath mat, put your ass up in the air, face down to the
floor, and reach around with your un-lubed hand and begin
to work the tip into your ass. Go in an inch, pause, pull
out a ways, maybe twist it 180 degrees to spread the lube,
then go in further, pause, repeat. Each time it feels
like it won't go in any further, hold it there, savor
the bittersweet "burn" of stretching muscles.
After 60-90 seconds, the muscles should relax, and you
can pull back and then insert even further.
“If you feel the plug ‘sticking,’ remove
it, and roll it around in your still lubed hand until
it's evenly coated again, then resume the insertion process.
Once the widest part of the plug goes past the anal sphincter
muscles, they'll clamp down on it and pull it the rest
of the way inside you. At that point don't try to stop
it or pull out, gently assist the plug the rest of the
“Once it's in, wash your hands, and enjoy the wonderful
sensation of being plugged. If you're worried about it
sliding out (which is only likely if you have a good sneeze
or you start to cramp), wear an old tight pair of shorts
to hold it in. Then go about your day! Some people find
wearing a butt plug to be a sexually arousing experience,
some find it to induce a strong sense of submission.
“Listen carefully to your body, and see how you
“When having the plug inside you starts to become
uncomfortable, or when you just want to take it out, sit
on the toilet, reach behind to hold onto the flange of
the plug, and use your normal bowel movement motion to
expel the plug, assisting with gentle pulling. There may
be a momentary discomfort, but it should slide right out.
Don't worry if it takes several tries.
“It's not a good idea to sleep wearing a plug. You
won't be awake to feel it, so there's little benefit to
you, and it will loosen your anal sphincter muscles a
lot, which it will take them a commensurately long time
to recover from and tighten up again.
while going overboard at first isn't a problem, in general
you want to leave 2-3 days between ‘anal play’
days, so that your muscles can recover. Certainly occasional
binges are OK.
is nothing wrong with liking the feel of something in
your ass. And liking those sensations doesn't mean you're
gay. It can be fun to have a girlfriend fuck you in the
ass with a strap-on, for an interesting reversal of roles.
“If you are considering using food items or random
household items as your first butt plug, don't. I strongly
recommend that you get some latex rubber plugs from your
local ‘dirty book’ store. It's much easier
to clean 'em, they are less likely to have bacteria on
them, and they are not going to have sharp ridges, which
might scrape or damage your skin.
“If you decide to insert a dildo rather than a butt
plug, don't insert it too deeply as they tend to be longer.
You'll be able to tell when it doesn't want to go in any
further, so don't force it. Your intestine makes a 90
degree left turn about 6 inches in, and you don't want
to poke through the wall at the bend there. In practical
terms, what this means is not to sit down while having
an overly long object inserted. Another reason for using
the latex butt plugs -- they aren't likely to be too long
for you to wear, even sitting down.”
Additional comments from Patrick: “There is very
little in the essay that I disagree with but a few added
observations are in order. If you have never used a butt
plug or dildo and have not been fucked a lot in the ass
you will find the medium butt plug Tammad suggests starting
with a bit of a shock. Go with a smaller size, and before
that use your fingers a good bit, first one and then two.
You'll want to up size before too long once you've seen
how minor the small one really is. The idea here is to
ENJOY the sensation.”
These comments from Ken might be helpful: "...the
top on Sunday, at my request, spent some time playing
with my hole. First fingering, then a toy. Prior to this
the most I've had in that orifice is fingers, thermometers,
and enema nozzles. I'd never had a fingering quite like
this, but it was okay. Then he put me on my back, legs
up and began using a small dildo....
"He ordered me to j/o at the same time.
I was lying there thinking relax and submit, relax and
submit and let me tell you my hole was yelling back, ’get
that thing out of here!’ I'll pause here and give
you a chance to stop laughing.
"Anyway, all of a sudden he pushed it in, and without
any warning or particular enjoyment I came. I didn't feel
exactly ready prior to that but all of sudden, whoosh
there it was. Of course, I almost missed it, because I
had given up on relax and submit and was now representing
my hole and yelling at him to take it out.
"I know, I know, not very obedient! So what happened?
Why did I cum like that? Also, how do you relax and submit
when things really do hurt? I mean, if I'm gonna continue
in this m/m, submissive lifestyle I think orifice availability
is an issue."
Patrick continues: “Getting back Tammad’s
essay, his insertion instructions are right on target.
As the plug is reaching it's widest point it will help
if you flex your ass muscles and legs a bit. Raising one
leg up will change the pressures on the plug and the last
bit of slipping in should go more smoothly.
“The burning sensation is a real feeling, much the
same as the burn you from working out a muscle beyond
what you had previously. You are making your ass muscle
work in reverse of what it normally does and it won't
do that without some protest.
“The moment when the plug has slipped in fully will
be a bit surreal. ‘Is it in there?’ you will
ask yourself. The feeling will be much different than
that last bit of exertion that you went through to get
it there. You'll be surprised at the sensation.
“I haven't found sleeping with a butt plug in place
to be much of a problem. Tammad is right that you don't
feel it, though there is that peace of mind that you are
doing the right thing by keeping it in. Sleeping with
it in is also important if you are training to increase
the size of the plug you are using. Extended wear of one
size is the only way to build yourself to a larger plug.
“A few days’ rest from using a plug will allow
the muscles to resume their tightness. Again, the experience
is no different than when you work out other muscles on
your body. While wearing the plug avoid activities such
as bicycle riding, and you will find that you naturally
want to sit with caution, especially on firm surfaces.”
1998 by Jack Rinella. This material may not be copied in
any manner. For permission to reproduce this essay, contact
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